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My son is 5 going 6 in a few days and he is adventurous.
I am so protective of him as he is on the clumsy side (he got it from me).
Lately as he is getting older he is getting more independent and wanting to be by himself when he is playing.

Do I let him go or do I still be as protective of him?

He saw some kids wall climbing on TV and he said he wants to try it.
Again I dont have any budget to go to a climbing gym so I brought him here.
A rockpool area hidden from a lot of tourist so there so much space to explore and play and well so many stone formation to climb.

At first he is scared of holding on to the rock because he is scared of hurting the snails that lives there.
Then he got the hang of climbing and he started grabbing the stones tighter to get higher.
And as his confidence grow he got more fearless and I am getting more scared.
I am so glad that he biked here and he forgot to get his helmet off so his head is protected from bumping into the rocks.





How can I say no to a face like that. That happiness on conquering heights and fear.
He loves it. We stayed there so long.
And the next day he ask if we can go back, claiming its his new favorite place in the whole wide world.



And he is really confident now. Looking at new rocks to climb.
And shouting with joy after conquering it.
And my heart skipping a beat everytime especially because he is no longer wearing his helmet.







And since we are here in this place for hours I might have wondered off too to explore on my own.
Is this being neglectful?



Should I let him go? What if something goes wrong?
Is it going to be my fault if I let him learn and be free to explore and would get hurt while doing it?



Parenting, motherhood is really hard. The decisions that you have to make everyday are so important as it involve lives.
Being responsible for one is so scary and yet I dont want motherhood to be about being scared.
Choosing on what to do is really hard.
But my instinct is telling me to let him enjoy and experience what nature has to offer.

My son is always falling down, getting his knees bruised a lot and his head bumped many times (im telling you he is clumsy) but it did not stopped him from standing up again to continue exploring. This builds his confidence! On times when its too painful he will run to me for a hug and a kiss and a plaster!

I think this is what childhood is all about.
Learning how to stand after a fall, conquering new heights and knowing that Mum is there with open arms whenever things get too much.
Needless wo say we are not stopping on exploring and I will try my best to loosen up a bit to let my son gain confidence.

Hard I know but I will try.


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( 28 comments — Leave a comment )
(Anonymous)
Jun. 6th, 2016 10:45 am (UTC)
It can be hard but I think you are doing well xx Anna
stevebethere
Jun. 7th, 2016 08:32 am (UTC)
I agree with the comment before mine your doing your best for him he sounds and looks like a very happy boy :-)
Diaryofanewmom1
Jun. 7th, 2016 08:40 am (UTC)
He is so cheerful and I think I will do the same with my son.Learning to live with nature is the best gift that you can give to him.
Kristin Aquariann
Jun. 7th, 2016 01:13 pm (UTC)
Wow! I didn't even want to climb trees at that age, and he's on his way to climbing mountains. That's so sweet he didn't want to hurt the snails. ^.^
Joy Mooiweer
Jun. 7th, 2016 01:17 pm (UTC)
What a beautiful spot for rock climbing! My kids would love it too, though I would be nervous like you, we just do the best we can and he looks like he's having an amazing time!
(Anonymous)
Jun. 7th, 2016 02:21 pm (UTC)
from Teresa Kindred at NanaHood
Beautiful post. Written from the heart. That's always the best kind!
Teresa
(Anonymous)
Jun. 7th, 2016 05:24 pm (UTC)
so sweet. lovely post and photos. and brave, adventurous boy. what a fun day for both of you (well... maybe a bit more fun for him ;-) )
alissa apel
Jun. 7th, 2016 09:35 pm (UTC)
Climb
That's so fun! I get scared watching my boys ride amusement park rides. A girl got her hair caught in one, and it tore her facial skin off at the forehead. She's still alive, but after that... We go hiking, and climbing. We've done it for some time now. My kids were 5 and 7 when we started climbing at Toadstool Park. I think as long as you are right there he'll be fine.

I'm the clumsy one in my family.
kristiannm
Jun. 7th, 2016 11:57 pm (UTC)
Your son is so energetic and adventurous! (not to mention photogenic, too!) You are a great mom for exposing him to such places. :)
Keith Hillman
Jun. 8th, 2016 07:17 am (UTC)
One tough lad! Great pictures of his adventure.

CraftInvaders
Jun. 8th, 2016 09:08 am (UTC)
Looks a wonderful place to explore. I agree its hard watching kids taking risks. but like you (and all mums) I know I have to give them the space to learn for themselves and develop. Lovely photos :)
mail4rosey
Jun. 8th, 2016 04:39 pm (UTC)
I call it not sports-inclined over here...but still and the same my youngest inherited being 'clumsy' from me too. ;) These are great pics. Looks like he's going at it like a champ!
(Anonymous)
Jun. 8th, 2016 05:08 pm (UTC)
It's such a fab age and they grow up so quickly. Nothing wrong with a bit of adventure at any age.
EmilyJPH
Jun. 8th, 2016 05:12 pm (UTC)
I love the texture of the rock as the background of your photos. Looks like he enjoyed his day out. :)
Susan Cook
Jun. 9th, 2016 12:10 am (UTC)
looks like he is having fun & you are watching over him so I think he should be fine. that is good he is outdoors I think it is better anyday then a gym :)
Mandy 'n' Justin
Jun. 9th, 2016 01:34 am (UTC)
Brave Kids + Anxiety
So glad your son was brave and that you let him explore! I can understand wishing he had the helmet on though. It'd make me nervous too! :)
Cascia Talbert
Jun. 9th, 2016 04:22 pm (UTC)
Beautiful photos! I hope he has a wonderful birthday. Thanks for linking up for Wordless Wednesday.
Joyce Lansky
Jun. 9th, 2016 04:35 pm (UTC)
Cute little guy!
LittleStepsTwit
Jun. 11th, 2016 09:46 am (UTC)
I'm a paranoid mum too, but I guess we just have to let them go and explore! Besides, that's what being a kid is all about, isn't it? ;) x
Cardiff Mummy Says
Jun. 11th, 2016 09:49 am (UTC)
Oh, I really relate to this as my children are becoming more and more adventurous and I need to get that balance between protecting them but not stifling or hindering them. I think they often surprise us with what they are capable of. #countrykids

Edited at 2016-06-11 09:49 am (UTC)
coombemill
Jun. 11th, 2016 10:22 am (UTC)
Merlinda, you have all my sympathy on this one, with 5 boys I have been through the terror of watching them climb at the beach and ignoring my concerns. It is so hard to let go and let them experience a little danger, if it all works out well you feel delighted you let them carry on, but there is always that fear. I have had my heart in my had so many times, however mostly they are more aware of their own limits than we realise. Well done your nearly 6 year old.

Than you for sharing with me at #CountryKids
Michelle Reeves
Jun. 11th, 2016 10:59 am (UTC)
With a 6 year old daughter that LOVES climbing I can really relate to this post! It's so difficult isn't it, wanting to stand back and let them learn but at the same time feeling oh so protective! Sounds like you're doing a great job honey - totally love these pictures too. Thanks for sharing and joining us at #sharethejoy this week x
mummyhereandthe
Jun. 11th, 2016 03:22 pm (UTC)
It is hard parenting with constanding wondering if you have made the right decision. It by the sounds of it you are doing your best and that's all anyone could ask X #countrykids
(Anonymous)
Jun. 11th, 2016 08:34 pm (UTC)
Natalie@memeandharri.com
This post reminds me of my five year old - she is the same so adventurous and I am constantly a bag of nerves. I want her to stay with me and wrap her in cotton wool but of course I cant. Parenthood is tough but I agree we need to encourage them to stand on their own two feet and be there when they need us. #countrykids
mummyMess
Jun. 11th, 2016 11:51 pm (UTC)
What a brave little dude. I get you, Merlinda. Olivia is starting to do things that feels like I am going to get a heart attack. She climbs all over now that she is doing gymnastics. I am over protective and scardy cat but. All I can do is step back and put my brave face on too. hehe
#countrykids

Edited at 2016-06-16 10:30 pm (UTC)
Clairejustine oxox (Clairejustineoxox)
Jun. 12th, 2016 12:09 pm (UTC)
Aww he looks like he is having lots of fun :) lovely pictures ...
minnowmep
Jun. 12th, 2016 05:29 pm (UTC)
It's something I struggle with too as my son becomes a little more adventurous. Letting him go and try new things whilst wanting to keep him safe is hard to balance isn't it #CountryKids
Mary Denman
Jun. 15th, 2016 03:21 am (UTC)
Merlinda, the fact that you think about all of these things shows that you care very much about being a good mom. And that shows you are a good mom. :) We all want to protect our kids, but we can't watch over them every second. They may get a scrape or bruise as they explore, but the fact that he knows you're right there for kisses is wonderful. :)

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